"I hate this idea of good drugs and bad drugs. There's no such thing as a good drug or a bad drug. There's this chemical that's neither good nor bad, it just exists out there. We either create it or it exists in nature, and then it's the relationship that humans have with it is the issue. That's the problem...Health is about accepting and perceiving and dealing with reality on reality's terms"
". . . ."
"Well, yeah. By the time I was sober I had four books out already. I was loved out of proportion...and I felt terror. That if I stopped drinking, I would never write again. Because I needed the misery, I needed that edge. I needed the shame and I needed the raging sick ego. And I felt that without those, I couldn't be sufficiently crazy enough to be funny anymore. But that's one of the lies of the disease... that if you're well and you're happy, your jig's up."
"We're supposed to focus on what it is that we want to move towards instead of away from. You don't have to lie when something is bad. You know, if you have a cold and someone says, "are you sick?" That doesn't mean say no. It means, "I'm getting better minute by minute.""
"Often, the best that we can do is to think of forgiveness as freeing your own heart from these states of grudge and resentment and anger and ill-will. Sometimes, that's the best that we can do. We don't have to love our enemy. But we don't have to be obsessed for our lifetime with the harm that was done to us. Forgiveness is tricky."
"The fact that everything is impermanent is the cause of suffering. Old age, sickness, and disease. And death. And the suffering of that is unbearable. The moment that you accept things as they are...you don't need to hope anymore. Because you realize that where you are, is kind of okay."
"Overcrowding your mind is like living in a tiny apartment with just enough room for you and your mattress. The moment you get a little space between yourself and your thoughts, it's like moving into a much bigger house. Then there's room to invite people in. There's space for you and there's space for them. That's spaciousness."
"He's dead now. He's not getting dangerous. And to the degree that you feel comfortable, sitting with that primal reality. Sitting in that moment. Feeling the feelings that come out and only calling the funeral home when you feel ready."